They want to have a girlfriend and make various efforts, but it doesn’t work out. Some people are people who cannot get a boyfriend/girlfriend no matter how long they wait. Why can’t they have a girlfriend?
The reason why they cannot find a girlfriend has to do with their attitude toward love. They think of a girlfriend as something to be “acquired” like hunting or fishing.
However, it is difficult to make a lover with such a way of thinking. This is because a lover is something you create, not something you get from somewhere else.
A man and a woman (or two people of the same sex) can become lovers only when they meet, communicate with each other through mutual sexual attraction, and build a trusting relationship.
This can be seen by observing the people around them who have boyfriends/girlfriends. They communicate without exception with the person with whom they will later become involved. Some couples start dating because of love at first sight, but they still cannot maintain a relationship without communication.
Others may want a boyfriend/girlfriend but do not want to communicate. Such people need to think carefully about what they are trying to make love for. If the goal is to have sex with the right person, that is possible, but that is not a relationship.
Making a lover is not easy, but with the right mindset and actions, it will happen someday.